Love is the key - Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself...

Wednesday, 8 June 2011

Hi Guys,

Hope your all blessed and doing well. I thought it would be best for me you blog now as I have a busy evening ahead and I’ve just finished a very interested training course (Finance for None Financial Managers). And more importantly, this course was so interesting, that I am going to park the original blog I had planned to share today which was how not LLL (if your intrigued by this acronym then read the blog I posted on 25th May 2011 ;) as there are some really good examples from today’s course that I would like to incorporate before publishing.

With that in mind, I have a contingency blog ;) and based on conversation I’ve been having with friends and family of late, this one is probably more fitting to share today.

Ok so I titled my blog Love is the key - check yourself before you wreck yourself. Why? Well simply because I feel that its crucial for us all to take the time to check in with Self to ensure that our purpose, value and love is still in line. This is because if we truly love ourselves, then we are empowered to receive and give out positivity to all who deserve.

Knowing how to love yourself

Knowing how to love yourself is fundamental. As mentioned, this is because the energy created from self love is at the very core of your well being, self - empowerment, and your ability to create, enjoy and RETAIN the kind of life you want.

You cannot enjoy happiness if you are not at peace with yourself!

This is because as the relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have.

What Are the effects of not loving yourself

Not knowing how to love yourself can be severely distressing and can open a slippery slope fuelled by indecision and self doubt. In more intense cases there is depression and self hatred, which can ultimately disable you in every area of your life and the self-focused negativity cuts you off from your connection to your Self.

Until you know how to love yourself there will be an inner war going on that divides your energy and incapacitate your efforts to move toward self love and happiness.

Besides that, if you lack your own love you attract people and circumstances that mirror your negative beliefs and feelings about yourself. By the Law of Attraction and energy transfer, this energy is neither lost nor found but merely transferred from one party to another - you heard it all before. So, in order for you to draw in loving people and circumstances, you need to know how to love yourself first.

Quick step techniques to love thy self

I read this earlier and thought it would be great to share (I've reworded and summarised the points, but if you want more info then pls feel free to email me at

Check in with yourself and tune into how you’re really feeling. I’m not saying have conversation with yourself openly by the way, but do whatever feels comfortable to release clarity on your current state of emotions. I generally tend to take a walk, catch up with friends, write or listen to music etc. If you are feeling negative, trace back to when you first started feeling that way and why. That way you have identified the problem and the next step is resolution.

Have compassion for yourself. This is a key step in learning how to love yourself. Until we learn self-compassion, we stand outside our own love and feel separate from Source, God, The Divine (insert the word you know It by). This feeling of separation from Source is at the core of all our discomfort and disease, on all levels of our being.

Forgive yourself, then forgive others, and free yourself (This is easier than you think). Read previous blog on forgiveness.

Heal your emotional pain. Many of us have emotional pain and suffering in our energy field that lies below our conscious awareness. In order to heal and release it, we first need to acknowledge it.

Create a Gratitude List to list things you appreciate about yourself. This is a powerful way to switch your feelings about yourself from negative to loving.

Identify and break free of old beliefs that could be holding you back.

Use your power of choice to choose happiness. Tap into the root of happiness inside you. What makes you tick and smile. Your creative gifts are a doorway into wellbeing and the fulfillment of your life path. Open to them and they will help you know and appreciate the unique and beautiful being you are.

And a final and fundamental aspect to be mindful of…

Don’t fall into the Comparison Trap. One of the common potholes of life that you may fall into on the road to learning how to love yourself is the old comparison trap. You know these ones. “KMT, whys that person is way better than me.” Or you can flip the script into to build a high self esteem: “KMT I know know I’m better than that person.” This is simply the other side of the same coin (feeling better than someone else in this context can be a buffer to protect you from the wrenching feelings of not being good enough and what appears to be high self esteem is a cover up for low self esteem). Either way, staying with this stream of thought cause nothing aside from badmindedness (is that a word lol) and self-suffering. So stop, reset and move back to the positive you.

Do you in the best way you can. Do as many things you can to nurture yourself on all levels – physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. See what draws you and evokes positive feelings … Yoga? Joining a gym? Or you might want to learn to dance, change your eating habits, or listen to music you love more often. Decide to do at least one activity each day that is exclusively for your own self-nurturing.

So think that’s enough for tonight folks (Cocktail has got my name on it right now), but please remember, as we embrace and love ourselves more, the doubt and/or fear within will diminish and wellbeing will expand. This can only open the door to self-empowered, confidence and a rediness world!

As always, PLEASE stay gifted and highly favoured,

Redibow xxx


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